People who were around the same age as the OP’s parents also shared their perspectives. “NTA I am 60 I fully expect my children to speak up to me if they don’t agree with me and they do,” the person explained. “Tell them to keep their homophobic comments to themselves, its none of their business.”
There were a few people who though that although she wasn’t being a jerk, she could have handled it better.
“… it also kind of sounds like you were specifically trying to start something with your parents. If you already knew that they weren’t going to say something to your son at Thanksgiving, then why call them up now to tell them this?” one person questioned.
Others argued that 60 isn’t all that old. And one person offered a way they could double and triple down: Everyone paint their nails.
“My nephew liked painted nails around that age too. My sister didn’t bring it up with extended family but she did tell me,” the person wrote. “Not only did her husband show up with painted nails, my husband (a 6ft, convict-looking man) showed up with purple painted nails on Thanksgiving. No one said a word. It was glorious.”
We like this approach. It will help the toddler feel less alone and it will likely quell some of those unsolicited opinions.
