The original poster explained in Reddit’s AITA forum that his wife and unborn baby were hit by a drunk driver and killed just two days after her due date. It’s been eight years, but the trauma still haunts him. He decided soon after her death that he would never be a father and had a vasectomy. A few years later, he met his current wife, Melissa, and the pair agreed they would never have kids. They eloped, and everything was fine — until it wasn’t.
“Recently, Melissa’s sister gave birth to twins. I’m happy for her and, of course, do my best to be a good uncle. However, since then, my wife has been nagging me, saying I’m being selfish and should get my vasectomy reversed so we can do IVF and have babies too. I reminded her that I was clear from the start—I don’t want to be a father. Now she’s calling me a jerk, saying I made this ‘stupid’ decision when I was grieving and that I should compromise by having just one child (she wants two, I want none). She says I got my late wife pregnant so it’s very selfish of me not giving her a baby. Am I an a–hole for not compromising?” he wrote.
