One person wrote: “NTA. Your MIL sounds like a nightmare, and like SHES the one everyone needs to be walking on eggshells around. I don’t think your message was rude or indicated that they aren’t allowed to see the daughter, I think your message was beyond fair as you and your partner are the parents, you guys get to make the rules for your baby. If people don’t want to respect that, even if they are the grandparents, that is their loss and you don’t have to disregard your boundaries to cater to their wishes. If she wants the relationship she needs to follow the rules the parents have set, grandparents don’t get to veto the parents.”
“Nope, you weren’t rude,” another person wrote. “MIL sounds like she thinks she should get to call the shots, and that your message to the group was directed at publicly scolding her personally. What you’re asking for is reasonable. But let your fiancé deal with their mother from now on.”
“You’re the parent, she is your child,” someone else pointed out. “Your child, your rules. They don’t like it they can go get bent and not see her at all. There are reasons people go NC. This very well can become a reason to do it.”
